Gossip

Gossip is a funny thing. I liken it to a STD. It spreads like wildfire and it's not good. Military wives are notorious gossips. Half the time what is said has come down from many different sources to the point that it's manipulated and twisted and the real story is completely convoluted. I have been both the parlayer AND the victim of gossip. After being the victim of vicious gossip, I have chosen to never spread things about anyone. I will not tell anyone anything without checking first. I figure if someone wants to know something, then just ask the person yourself. If you don't feel comfortable asking, then maybe you should think as to why.

Case in point. I have a friend that is going through a rough patch. It may or may not be something serious, but right now everyone is okay. She texted me to let me know what was going on because she didn't want me to hear it from the gossip circle or from someone else. I appreciated her telling me, so that way I can be there if she needs my help. However, I decided that what they are going through is for them to tell...not me. I can't even tell you how many people have emailed me, texted me or Facebooked me asking me what is wrong with her. Really? Don't ask me. Ask her. Ask HER what you can do for HER. They are very private people and trust me....I will NOT tell you. I realize that for most people, it can seem like I'm being a bitch or mean by not telling. But put yourself in that position for a second. Would you want some indiscriminant person asking about your private, personal life and then having it blabbed all over the place? I know I wouldn't. I respect my friends. Do you?