...of a break up. Breaking up is hard to do. It doesn't matter if you are the dumper or the dumpee. It sucks. No one ever enters into a relationship or a friendship thinking, "Hmmmm....when is the right time to dump this person?". Eventually, it comes down to realizing that both people in the relationship are no longer on the same page. Often, one wants more than what the other can give. That's when you hit the breaking point. Either you support the person and try to make it work, or you don't.
I have had 3 significant break ups in my life. One in high school, one right after college and one very recently. The one most recently is probably the most complicated and convoluted one to date. I won't go into too many details, except to say that one party wanted more than what the other could give. Rather than support, words were exchanged and it came to the point that I couldn't make it work. Even had a break in the relationship ensued, it would never have recovered to the point that it would have been beneficial to either side. Too many hurtful things had been said and too many truths exposed that could not and should not be hidden. I had to cut the tie. It hurt, but it was necessary. I don't regret this person in my life at the time that this person was in my life. I regret that it had to end so verbally violent on behalf of the other party. Sticks and stones break bones, but words will always stay. I tried to take the high road, but apparently, that road was still under construction.
I write about this because I hadn't yet. Break ups aren't something that people like to talk about, but you realize that once you externalize it, it makes sense. Break ups hurt no matter which side you end up on, but in the end, they prove necessary. In the end, it cuts out unnecessary drama from your life. You learn from the mistake and hopefully don't repeat it.
